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Six paths for personal fullfilment

The leader

 

To become a leader you need three things:

Vision

Enthusiasm

Charisma

 

Vision

Leaders do not hide indoors. Leaders always think of change, they have the will and the interest to go to new directions and find new ways. They are not busy with themselves only, they look around, they look forward and create a vision of how to bring the change that they think is needed.

Leaders search paths to the future.

 

Enthusiasm

Leaders are gifted with the fire of enthusiasm, with the joy of action: the fire of change, a sweeping fire. They have a vision for something bigger, more beautiful... the fire inside of them attracts them toward fulfillment.

 

Charisma

Charisma radiates from the inner fire and vision of the leader, the glow of which transpires to the outside. It is impossible to "see" charisma. It comes from one's inner being.

 

Leadership is not connected to politics, nor to a management position of any kind. Leadership means to be "the head of the tribe". It is the quality of charisma that makes people listen to someone and value his opinions. This is the person others want to be with. Leadership is not connected to power or manipulations, but to popularity. Popularity is connected to charisma and charisma is born from enthusiasm and vision.

A real leader does not need to make people follow him. They follow him because they are fascinated by his vision, because they want him to lead them to a better future, because they believe in him. The leader is the person chosen by those who follow him.

The fire of the leader provides security, it illuminates, it warms the heart. Leadership cannot be cold and estranged.

 

Forget about the distorted conventional concept of leadership, of responsibility and burden, or of arrogance in the sense of being "better than others".

 

If you choose the way of leadership, it is your mission to lead people into a new era, to bring about change, to lead people to a better future.

One can be a leader of a family, a state, the world, the galaxy. Look around you. Who are the people who want to be around you? That is how you know whom you lead.

 

Tip to a leader: Don't be afraid of the truth.

Be always faithful to your truth, also if half the world thinks otherwise, also if your truth looks insane, also if it changes all the time, also if it does not resemble anything.

A leader who lies to himself, also lies to all his followers. It is impossible to be a leader speaking from a place of lies. Find your own truth and stick to it.

 

  

The Warrior

  

First of all, forget about all the definitions you have about the concept "warrior" and develop a definition of your own.

 

A warrior has three qualities:

Attentiveness

Strategy

Willpower

 

The warriors are the wind under the wings of the leaders. The leader has an ideology but cannot realize anything without a warrior. The warrior is a person of action.

 

Attentiveness

Warriors are attentive. They listen to orders and instructions, to the guidelines of their leaders so that they can perform the tasks imposed on them in the most effective way.

 

But the quality of attentiveness goes much deeper. They listen not only to the text, but also to the subtext. They have to be attentive to any tendency occurring in the surroundings / battlefield and listen to themselves. They have to listen to things behind things, so that they can get the picture correctly. They sometimes have to improve the orders received from the leader. They are the filter through which the idea passes and they are the ones to decide if and how an idea will be executed, if at all. (attentiveness and watching = awareness).

 

Strategy

If a warrior develops the quality of attentiveness to the inside and the outside up to the smallest details, he will become a good strategist. He will command the art of strategy in order to conquer goals and aims.

A warrior who becomes a good strategist undergoes a metamorphosis; he becomes a leader on his own merit.

Strategy means analyzing a situation, drawing the correct conclusions, predicting results and obtaining goals in non-aggressive ways.

Here is no need for physical force or command of the martial arts.

 

Willpower

Willpower is the ability to choose a goal, stick to it and reach it "by hook or by crook"...

The goal has become a magnet attracting the warrior to it. The goal creates the force, the power and the will to reach it.

 

Whoever chooses the mission of a warrior chooses action. The warrior is aware of death. He is ready to die in battle and prefers it over a life in oblivion and doom, in "nothingness". He must have goals to reach, otherwise life is a waste. The way of a warrior is a practical way, a physical way. It is a very rewarding and satisfactory path to walk on. Warriors who lose their wish to exhaust life - lose their way.

 

Tip for the warrior: don't be afraid of life.

Don't be afraid to live your life to the brim. Warriors know that their years are numbered and therefore they have to exhaust the sweetness of life as much as they can.

 

 

The Healer

 

The way of the healer goes through the water. The three qualities of the healer's way are:

Life

Change

Collecting and timing

 

Life

The healer brings life wherever he is. He brings love to destroy fear.

Pain, illness and dis-ease are always anchored in fear. Love heals everything.

The healer, encountering fear, learns and develops himself.

 

Change

Like water, the healer can change according to events or to circumstances. The healer cannot remain on the same spot. Stagnant water becomes stale. The healer is always changing and moving. If there is a barrier he will circumvent it or penetrate it or else he vaporizes. While stagnation is the cause of illness, change is the action of healing. The Healer must evoke people or situations to change in order to heal themselves.

 

Collecting and timing

The healer collects and uses techniques, resources, tools, methods and anything that may bring healing/change.

 

Healing is both an external and an internal process. It is also for situations, times, places, possibilities, thoughts and feelings. Healing occurs anywhere where fear exists.

 

The way of the healer is a very rewarding way. It is the way of love, of building relationships with cosmic life. To be a healer means to be connected to all the lives on the planet.

Don't confuse it with the medical profession - it encompasses only specific aspects of the healer. Also the members of Greenpeace and all the ecological movements are healers, as well as those fighting for peace, human rights and all kinds of volunteers... Briefly, all the ways to bring love to a place where any kind of fear reigns is healing.

 

Tip for the healer: Don't be afraid of exposure.

When offering help, don't be shy, don't think "what will they think of me". Whenever people reveal a vehement objection to you, they need you the most.

 

  

The Teacher

  

The way of teaching differs from all the five other ways because this is not a way one can choose. Teaching chooses you!

Teaching does not mean sharing knowledge. A teacher can light the stars in people's eyes. Teaching is to make them undergo a new experience, something they are not used to, to evoke their curiosity, to reveal to them a glimpse to the stars, to open doors to all the treasures and the wealth of our planet.

Teachers do not teach Bible and arithmetic. They teach how to live well. They teach awareness.

The teacher is an ambassador, an ambassador of the planet for all human conditions. Teachers cannot focus on one profession or specialize in a specific field. They are full of knowledge in very many fields, they encompass everything, they are also healers, messengers, leaders and able to perform all the other functions.

 

The teacher does not have ready-made teaching material. He draws from the wealth of the planet, from the diversity of existing possibilities. This is what he brings to the people wherever and whenever suited in order to raise awareness and open people's hearts, to teach them to live, reveal to them the possibilities and lighten the starts in their eyes.

 

Tip to the teacher: Don't be afraid of love.

Don't be afraid to love yourself. Don't be afraid that people love you. This is the energy that empowers you as a teacher, that feeds you - this is the only way in which you can give everything you have.

 

 

The Creator

 

The way of the creator is to bring order in things, to provide a pattern, to give things a name, to impart form. From the endless ocean of possibilities, from chaos and insignificance, creators find forms, transform processes and create life.

 

The creative process finds expression in three phases:

Thinking

Imagination

Making (making things be)

 

Creators have very strong intellectual skills, and their thinking processes are deep and exact. They can perceive, take in and analyze data and disclose current knowledge whenever needed. Their thinking process is creative, fruitful and full of ideas.

Ideas come from the imagination, which is a central tool of the creator. Imagination provides original thoughts, an original perception of what Creation is all about. Imagination is the ability to bring up forgotten memories of other times, the ability to retrieve from unconscious reservoirs information and memories and bring them to the conscious level for their use. That can be done in the form of stories, emblems (symbols), paintings or in any other way.

The ability to think deeply, combined with imagination, results in original ideas leading in the end to action - in words or in physical forms. The result is creation... the creation of a reality.

A creator should not judge his own creation. Judging a creation means an end to creativity. A creation born out of wholeness is always in harmony with the environment. It is an immortal creation. On the other hand, a creation born from want, from fear is a creation that may instill a feeling of uneasiness or even pain.

 

Tip for the creator: Don't be afraid of yourself.

Don't be afraid to spoil or to destroy. You are the one to give things name and a shape. Trust yourself, believe in yourself and expect surprises. There is a place for any creation.

 

    

The Messenger

 

The way of the messenger is connected to intuition and attentiveness. It is a way of penetrating to the inside, not a way of action or creating a reality. It is the way of listening to the soul. The messenger is the connecting link between the dimensions and he accompanies all those who chose the paths of serving others.

Each of the other paths: leader, warrior, teacher and creator, need a messenger who accompanies them on their way toward realization. The messenger is a satellite. His way is not one of action and activity.

His job is to transfer messages, to give advice, to listen to his inner being (some see this as listening to messages that come from "other non- physical worlds"), and say what is in his heart.

The classical function of the messenger is represented by "the court clown".

 

The way of the messenger is composed of two qualities:

 

Belief (giving up logic)

Madness (giving up control)

 

Belief

Belief plays an important role in the ability of the messenger to "hear" and/or to "see" his messages. Although the answers come from the inside, he must believe that he is not the one who invents them. He has to give up logic. He should not ask: why? Or: what do I get out of it? Or: how does it serve me? What does it mean?

He is only the "transmitter", the "messenger", there is no need for him to understand.

 

Madness

It is self-evident that an inner voice speaking out from you without self-criticism, or passing on external speech from "other worlds", comes close to madness. The messenger does not have an anchor to provide him with stability. He has no anchor of understanding and logic nor any other anchor. His way does not contain certainties, reinforcements or rubber stamps. Nothing is clear, everything is amorphous. This is a way only few people choose, because it is a way of solitude. Who understands the messenger? He is even unable to explain himself to anybody!

 

Tip for the messenger: Don't be afraid of anything.

Fear bars communication. Fear causes you to get lost on your way. Proceed with full confidence and believe in all the messages coming through you, to you and from you because they are the truth. Also if it seems strange and illogic - don't be afraid.

 

These are the six paths of service you can choose from in order to fulfill your life mission.

Which one will you choose?

What way you feel most connected to? What is it you wish to be?

What way attracts you more than anything else?

Yes, in each one of us is something of everything. We feel we can be everything - a leader, a teacher, a messenger, a healer ....

But to choose a mission means focusing, knowing exactly how you wish to serve others. There is no other way. Our sages said "If you try to grasp it all, you are left with nothing". You cannot do everything. A mission always means that you have to choose a way on a roadmap of six directions. We can choose the main road which is clear, quick and supportive, or walk along unclear side paths...

We live in an era of free choice, and this choice has to be renewed all the time.

 

What will you do on the way of your mission?

The possibilities are unlimited. "All roads lead to Rome". There are many roads by which to reach one's goal. Make a choice and take the first step. The others will follow.

 

Remember that we live in a dynamic world that changes all the time. We don't have to "remain stuck" on one way all our lives. That was once upon a time, when the shoemaker's son became a shoemaker, the tailor's son a tailor and the rabbi's son a rabbi for life. This is no more. Today we live in a world of choice. To choose out of awareness means to have control of your life.

 

And what are these roads to choose your life mission from?

These are no more than tools, tools of cognition that enable you a "shortcut" to happiness.